If you are dealing with the death of a close loved one for the first time, you may dread the funeral. Not only is this a difficult time of intense grief, you may be uncertain as to how to deal with the many visitors at both the viewing and the funeral service. If so, use the following tips for handling interactions with visitors during your first funeral for a close loved one.
Greetings Do Not Have to Be Extensive
Each time an individual approaches you before or after the service, you may feel as though you are obligated to talk at length with them. However, doing so would not only take up too much time, but it may also exhaust you during an already trying time.
When someone comes up to offer their condolences, you can simply say a short greeting or thank them for coming. Most people are understanding about the toll of a loved one's death on family members, and they should understand if you are not in a talkative mood.
Patience When Hearing the Same Things
As more visitors start to come in for the viewing and service, you may find that you are hearing the same comments over and over again. Since you are already stressed out during this time, you may find yourself wanting to scream if one more person says they are sorry or that you are in their prayers.
When faced with the standard cliches, try to remain patient. Death is something with which few people are comfortable dealing. They most likely do not know what to say or are afraid of saying the wrong things, so they usually say something common to avoid awkward situations. Just remember that their hearts are in the right place.
Diffuse Awkward Questions
Another thing you may have to contend with during the funeral is awkward questions about your loved one's death. Some visitors may feel as though questions about the manner of death or if your loved one suffered shows that they are truly interested.
However, you may not be able to emotionally handle reliving those final moments. When someone asks you a question you do not wish to answer, simply say you do not want to talk about it. Most people will understand and abandon the question.
Using the tips above can help you somewhat prepare yourself for the barrage of well-wishers and visitors during the funeral. However, if you are in need of further guidance, speak with the director of the funeral to discuss the service, as well as request their assistance with visitors who attend to pay their last respects to your loved one.